ONLINE BOOKS Addicted to Unhappiness Author Martha Heineman Pieper – speedstamps.co.uk
Iate things but also things that make us unhappy In fact we hang on to painful things memories and feelings simply because they are familiar and give us supposed comfortThis book is not any old self help book but rooted in research and ears of practical experiences I found the book really uite helpful Builds on attachment theory The harder work on figuring out The Defense (Eddie Flynn your emotional makeup is better done wrangling other intense books for me Anthony Storr s Solitude and Jonathan Heidt s Happiness Hypothesis to reach the kind of objectivity needed to do what this book suggests Still several sensible insights It works afterou don t need it so badly Someone recommended this book to me so I was a little surprised that I got so little out of it Perhaps I didn t find much value in it because I am not addicted to unhappiness so I could not relate to what the author was talking aboutThis book seems to say that people whose life circumstances are good are only unhappy because they have some unconscious desire to make themselves unhappy This unconscious desire is something that comes from a confusion between happiness and unhappiness that back to childhood According To This Book A to this book a of people had feelings as a child that were the result of bad parenting But since we believe that our parents love us and are perfect we also strive to continue to have those unhappy feelings that we had as a child As a result as adults we sabotage our opportunities to be happyI think this is probably true but this seems like such a simplistic and watered down explanation of human psychology that it is not all that worthwhile The book does provide a ton of examples so there may be some value in the examples if Hai nhà you think the authors correctly analyzed what was going on with their patients But I think a better word for what the authors are talking about is a neurotic complex or the concept of toxic shame that is explained in books by Pia Mellody and John BradshawThis book makes it sound like it s obvious what people need to do to be happy and the only reason people are unhappy is that they are not choosing to do these things But different people find happiness in different ways and for many people I don t think it s obvious at all what they should be doingI will say this though There do seem to be a lot of people who appear to spend all of their waking hours complaining without any obvious justification It does seem like there are uite a few people who would be absolutely miserable if they had nothing to complain about So I guess those are the type of people that this book is about. Rom their clinical experience the authors provide insights and effective strategies that will helpou choose and maintain the happiness ou deserveRUNNING TIME ➼ 6hrs and 59mins©2019 Martha Heineman Pieper PhD P2019 Martha Heineman Pieper Ph. .
Relevance in most people s lives If nothing else it is very informative on what others think I Voluntarily Read And Reviewed This Book voluntarily read and reviewed this book exchange for a free copy Although I agree that people can make a habit out of being unhappy and thinking negative thoughts I am not sure I buy into the fact that the unhappiness we experience now is because of childhood experiences and the past relationships with our parents Or at least not to the extent the author believes I m not sure I unreservedly buy into the central thesis which is that when children aren t treated optimally they mistake the resulting negative feelings for happiness because to their minds it s what their perfect parents intend for them to feel and must thus be an ideal state According to this theory adults then end up addicted to the unhappiness they felt as children and consistently act in ways that sabotage their true happiness to bring themselves back to a state of unhappiness which to their unconscious minds euals happiness because it s the state they experienced as small children with their parentsAnyway It s an intriguing theory even if I felt like there was a certain degree of oversimplification it is a layperson directed self help book after all It certainly does make sense in a way and whether or not it s literally true I don t see how such a subjective theory could be declared definitely true or untrue anyway it seems like it could be a very helpful and productive way for people to look at it seems like it could be a very helpful and productive way for people to look at behavior patterns and vague chronic dissatisfaction with life At the very least I think it s a useful thought experiment I very much appreciated what I learned from this book and that I need to examine my life for areas where I am satisfied with being unhappy I ve come to live with things that are very wrong but I don t do anything to address them because I accept them as normalUnfortunately the solutions to solving these issues always involve intentional focused hard work There are no shortcuts But realizing there is a problem is the first step and always leads to some improvement So that s the good news The authors are claiming that we can be addicted to unhappiness in the sense that we need it in our lives The idea is really not that crazy because in built into us is the pursuit of happiness As a child unfortunately through inappropriate discipline for appropriately aged behaviour and values we associate our feelings of unhappiness with what makes our parents and authority figures happy Children being mirrors or imitators simply take it in Thus our happiness can be not only linked to appropr. Ntial to live fulfilled lives but many of us find it difficult to realize that potential Best selling authors Martha and William Pieper will help ou understand how ou unknowingly became an addict to unhappiness Using real life examples drawn